A Modern Dublin Girl
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By Síofra Kildee-Doolan
I’m Síofra, and I live in Dublin, Ireland. I’m nearly 12 years old and I live with my three little brothers, my mam and my dad. I am in 6th class. I don’t really like being the only girl in the family, as I would like to have an older sister I could ask advice from and borrow stuff from too.
My mam is from Flint, Michigan, U.S.A. All of my aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents live there. My dad is from County Cork. My grandmother and aunt still live there. The rest of my family live around the world. It’s hard for my parents to bring four kids anywhere, but I would like to see our family more often.
I have two very close friends where I live and we see each other everyday. There used to be four of us but two of my friends and I became distant. They made new friends and go to places I’m not allowed go to. When it was the four of us we used to argue so we decided it was better to go our own ways.
I go to school in the middle of the city centre. I have loads of friends in my school. I’m not really friends with the popular kids, but I do talk to one of them as she goes to choir with me. The popular kids from school are all from the inner city. They wear the latest clothes and are “cool.” They act like they don’t know anything about Irish or maths and hate school. They get everything they want…well, that’s how they act, anyway. Being popular means the younger popular girls look up to you. Younger kids also like me, they know me because my mam’s a teacher and I’ve been the lead in the school plays.
I go to choir and sing at Mass and at concerts. It is a girls’ choir and there is a boys’ choir, too, but they were founded way before the girls. The two choirs never get treated the same. The boys are put first and we always are put second. The boys get the most attention although we work equally as hard. They get longer trips, prime time masses and the times and choir sessions are switched to accommodate the boys. They are given more funding and we are not allowed many fundraising opportunities. I think it is this way because one of the priests doesn’t like us and is also sexist. I feel very annoyed and I don’t think it’s right. I would like it to change and for things to be equal. It’s the only place I’ve ever been that has been sexist towards me or girls I know. The choir has gone to Derry, Belgium and Paris to sing in choral festivals. We have sung on the radio, television, in the National Concert Hall, Farmley House and the Mansion House in Dublin. We are going to Liverpool in the summer. We practice twice a week for 3 hours.
I also box twice a week and I have gotten much more fit than I was before. I got interested in it when two of my friends joined. They’ve since quit, but I stayed. Boxing is considered a “male” sport: but girls are just as good as boys. There are no female coaches. I have loads of friends in boxing, but there are only three girls in my class so I don’t get proper fights as often as the boys do. It would be great if more girls joined the boxing club so we had more opportunities.
Next year I’m going to secondary school and I’m really scared I might miss the first day of school because we’ll be away on holidays to the U.S.A. I’ve heard if you miss the first day of school you don’t get a locker. I am excited but a bit worried. I go to a primary school so far away and I only know one girl going to the secondary school. I’m also a little worried I’ll fall behind or won’t make friends because it’s a new school and place. I am probably going to do art and music because I love both those subjects.
There is a pressure where I live to fit in, and have the latest clothes and the latest gadgets. On social media other girls my age are always worrying about likes and comments and followers, which I don’t really care about. I am not allowed on Facebook. I am only on Snapchat and Instagram and use those to text my friends and family. On Instagram I post selfies, quotes and pictures of my friends and me. I’m only on social media so I can communicate with others. But I don’t like the way I’m always contactable. Sometimes you just want time to yourself but everybody’s texting you and expecting a reply immediately. I have my own phone and my parents let me have it most of the day but take it off me at dinner and when I go to bed. My mam tells me what I can put up on Instagram and what’s appropriate but I would go to her with any problems or fears I have on social media. I am ok with the rules my parents have about social media.
I feel grown up as I am tall for my age so when people figure out I’m only 12 they always say, “Oh, I though you were older!” I’d say I act a bit older as well, because if you saw a girl that looks like me acting babyish I think it would look strange!
10 years from now I’d like to be saving up to move out, and probably be doing make up to earn extra money. Then I’d like to attend college where my mam went in Michigan, U.S.A. I’d love to study art of some sort.
Síofra Kildee-Doolan is 12 years old and her interests include singing and baton twirling. Her favourite subjects in school are art and English writing. Síofra lives in Dublin with her parents, three younger brothers and the family cat, Liath.
Well done SMKD, amazing article! I never knew you liked art
You’re a great writer, Síofra! I can’t wait to see you this summer. Lots of love! <3 Erin
Beautifully written, Siofra. We are always so proud of you! By the way, the rules you have are the same rules my girls had! We are so anxious to see you in August
I am amazed at your writing and I love all your thoughts. you are so much like your mother and father. that’s a good thing!
I am so anxious to see you July 30th. and you will be welcomed by your whole family here. we all love you. from Nanny.
You are an excellent writer Siofra. While reading this I was thinking about your mother because she also experienced many of the issues you are having with friends and in school. Your mother, like you, had very special friends at school but she also did not hang with the kids who were considered really, really cool. Sometimes I wonder if those “really cool” kids are just very lonely because they don’t enjoy experiences outside of their “group” of friends. For example, you like boxing because it is healthy and gives you confidence and is great exercise. Some of the “cool” girls would never do this because their “friends” would not think it was cool. They are really missing out on something very fun and enjoyable because they are afraid to try something new or afraid of what their friends would think if they did. Your mother loved to sing like you do. She was never afraid to sing with the choir or sing on stage. She always tried new things so that she could improve herself and enjoy a new experience. I remember when your mother told me how she traveled to Ireland for the first time to experience a new country. She was not afraid to try something new or afraid of what others would think. She had, as they say in America, “guts”. This made her a better person, a more well rounded individual and was an opportunity to know herself better. I know it is hard sometimes to discover where you “fit in” but just keep doing what you love to do and don’t worry what others think. I am sure that upper school will provide many opportunities for you to expand your mind, body and soul. Try many activities no matter what others do. Talk to teachers, councilors and other adults and ask about their experiences in life. They will help you make good choices. Your mother and father are your best guides and they really do know how difficult it can be at times, but you should know that they understand how you are feeling more than you know. We all face adversity in life and many have found that the best path to travel is the one we cut out for ourselves. The paths of others may NOT be the way we should go. Your dream of going to school in America can be a reality and is a worthy goal. You will accomplish this with hard work and belief in yourself. I know many of your relatives in America, the Kildees, and I know that many of them have dreams of making a difference in the world and they are doing just that with their work. Continue on your path and continue to write often because you are very good at it. Congratulations on your fine work. Lastly, may I suggest that you talk to the priest about your concerns regarding the inequity of the choirs and see what he has as a response. You may be the change that is waiting to happen. Love you, honey ♥ PS……………I am sure you will get a locker at school !!!
Thank you, Mary, for all that you’ve written! Two of my best memories from high school are being in the musical you directed and being in your English class (and reading The Yellow Wallpaper). You’re such a great example of what a meaningful impact good teachers have. ❤ I hope Síofra will follow your good advice!
You’re an amazing writer, Síofra!! I miss you and can’t wait to see you in August!
Síofra, I loved reading this and learning more about your life in Dublin! You have a knack for expressing yourself with words, and many other talents as well! I am very excited to see you, the boys and your parents this summer. Love all of you!
Siofra, I really enjoyed your article. Very honest and well written. I can’t wait to see you this summer. I’d like to take you and your brothers fishing again. Hello to your Mom, Dad and the boys. Love, Uncle Mike
Can’t wait to read more of your writing Síofra! I loved this piece. Keep up the great writing, singing and boxing! X
You are a brilliant writer Siofra. I know we have not really met but I am a friend of your Mom and Dad and like your Mom, I am also an American living in Dublin. You are very talented. I hope you will keep up with your writing even though it sounds like music and art really have your heart. All the best, Kieran
I am so proud of you and your wonderful writing….looking forward to see you this summer!much love,
Your cousin in Michigan,
Susie Kildee Janis
Síofra,
Loved your first published article, you are so down to earth and I can sense that you write straight from the heart, if you hold these basic fundamentals throughout your life you will be successful at anything you do. Good luck in your new school,, and don’t worry, every secondary school student has the same reservations that you do ….it’ll all work out and when the first few days are over, and everyone has settled into the routine of having a different teacher for each subject and remembering what books to bring into school with you each day, you’ll wonder why you wasted so much time fretting..so don’t , you’ll have far nicer things to think about during the summer holidays I’m sure. I am already looking forward to reading your next article Síofra …..so don’t keep me waiting too long 🙂
Great piece Siofra x
Hi, I really enjoyed your life story. You are a good writer and explained your thoughts so well. Maybe you will make a difference in the world on how women are treated. We certainly need equal rights. Thanks for your story. I’m Uncle Steve’s mother.
brilliant writing SIOFRA your amazing ❤️
OMG siofra that was so good ❤